Investigate your eating habits and emotions. Do you tell yourself you're fat and you can't lose weight? Are you a perfectionist? Are you impatient? Do you have a need for validation? By examining your issues, you will find out what is eating you. Many women lose or gain weight after losing a loved one. When a man leaves us, we do one of two things. We either binge or starve. This is a side effect of feeling hollow and happens when your self worth is tied up in someone else's view of you. We try to nurse the wound with food or by starving ourselves. I have to laugh when I see an 80 pound woman make a negative remark about a heavy person. Being too thin is just as unhealthy as being too heavy. People gain weight for a variety of reasons and not all are spiritual. You can gain weight due to hormonal imbalances, sugar addictions, stress, etc. Although outside forces can contribute to your weight, don't underestimate what your thoughts are doing to your body.

Thoughts are so powerful. I can't stress this enough. Your life is a mixture of your choices and your environment.  If you don't like something in your life, take steps to change it. The first step in transforming your life is THOUGHT. What do you put in your mind? What negative things do you say about yourself? The more a thought is repeated, the more power it has. When thought becomes spoken word, it is a reality. I will teach you how to send positive information to your problem areas and lose pounds of baggage. Neuropeptides are chemical messengers that travel throughout the body whenever you think a thought or speak a word. Negative thoughts produce chemicals that depress your immune system and positive thoughts carry other chemicals to enhance the immune system. Your mind/body connection never sleeps. A human being thinks over 60,000 thoughts a day.  I think you can afford to change a few! Everything can be changed and anything is possible.

Everyone handles stress differently therefore reasons for weight fluctuations vary by the individual. The dynamics of your relationships and how you react to them strongly affect your body. Many people gain weight when they feel the need for protection. Our bodies feel the energy going out and protect themselves with a layer of fat. When people give too much and don't say no enough, their bodies pick up the slack and create dis-ease.  If you give too much energy away, you could attract energy leaches as well as extra pounds. Many people stay heavy to reassure themselves their mates love them for who they are. Other people allow their mates to decide how thin they should be. Don’t let others make decisions for you about your appearance. Sooner or later, you will resent them.

If you've been through a breakup you may be holding on to those extra pounds to ward off potential dates. You're too hurt to shop for Mr./Ms. Perfect so you send out a signal to your body to put on some protection. Loneliness is another cause of weight gain. If you don't have a lover, you tend to lose interest in self improvement. SO many times I hear clients say, "I'll never fall in love. I don't have anyone to dress up for anyway." They can’t even envision anyone loving them. They aren’t even to that point. In order to attract a mate, you have to treat yourself the way you want a lover to treat you. You must also believe there is someone for everyone.

Remember, what you focus on comes to you. Reality is only a mirror image of your thoughts. Weight fluctuations are normal when going through a trauma but when the weight outlives the tragedy, it's time for Malena's psychic diet. When you gain weight your mind does one of two things: You think your weight is out of your control or you beat yourself to death over it. Either way, you are telling your body it doesn't have the power to heal itself. When you feel like you don't have control of your life, you take extreme control of your body and what you put in it. Anorexia and Bulimia start with feeling out of control. When you have an overweight child or teenager the best way to help him or her is to be a good example. Criticizing a child's weight only makes things worse. A child may hide a food addiction instead of curing it. Help your child develop a healthy self esteem. Self love is the first building block to a successful life. Walk with your child, make healthy meals, and change YOUR routine. Positive re-enforcement is the key, NOT criticism. NEXT